A Letter to My Younger Self


April 19, 2015

This idea was borrowed from https://wordsaliveonyourscreen.wordpress.com/2015/04/15/advice-to-my-younger-self/


Dear me,

now that you will enter the university, you will be faced with many choices and paths to take.  Unfortunately, the choices you make now will mold you to who you will be in the future.  Don’t fret too much, because you are young, life will allow you to commit mistakes and will forgive you for them.  I have several points that I want to share with you.

Choose your friends wisely. As the famous saying goes, “No man is an island”. This means that a person’s connections and relationships with others are vital and forms the environment that you will live in. I’m not telling you to choose one group over another.  I’m telling you that who you associate with is important.  Try to be close with people that you think are “intelligent” and worthwhile.  Being friends who support you in anything that you do is not so difficult to find, but having friends who are smart enough to advice you not to do foolish things is a bit more difficult.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Romantic Relationships form who you are. This may sound strange now but this is important. Choose to be in relationships that you feel you will get what you want.  I’m not simply talking about sex, we will get to that later on, but what I’m saying is that even when you are in a relationship, you must still think about yourself.  Will you grow as a person is you are with this girl or will you just be trapped in an unhealthy relationship that you will have a hard time leaving because of mind games, habit, attachment, and what have you.  Try to be with a person who is interesting and who will motivate you to be a better person. But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Money is important. This may sound clicheish but money is important.  Money doesn’t grow on trees and your constant and seemingly-endless supply of money from your parents will end once you finish your schooling.  So try to save money and try to avoid wasting money on useless and superfluous things.  This point is pretty straight forward and simple.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Time is gold. Studying takes time but I won’t take all your time. You are smart and you can easily ace your classes without too much trouble. Use your spare time wisely. Get hobbies that are productive and will help you to be a better.  Invest your time with good friends, and maybe even join worthwhile groups.  Read books and watch movies.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Sex. I know that you are just starting in the university and you might not be thinking about it. Trust it, it will happen and it will change you. As a man, you are almost always good to go and your body and mind will let you know continuously. Now, you may choose to have sex with someone you are in a relationship with. You may choose, and be so lucky if this is what you want, to have sex with people who just want to have sex (you’ll be surprised by the amount of people who want this). You may even “demonize” people into having sex with you and without really having a relationship with them.   But please be as careful as you can because sex is an important experience and this should be treated with utmost respect.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

As always, this is all the information shared here is shared with trust.


ex facebook

august 9, 2012

there are people who mentioned that they have noticed that i have deactivated my facebook account. that is true. i have already deactivated it. the usual reason i give is that i’m wasting to much time on facebook instead of doing the things i need to be doing, but there is a much more serious reason why i did that. some would assume that i deactivated my account because i’m forcing myself to stop looking at her profile ever though we are not friends anymore. well… that assumption is partly true. but there is a more sad reason why i did that.

whenever i see my friends from college, talking, commenting and interacting with each other, i get jealous. i always ask myself, why dont the comment on my posts? why dont they talk to me? am i not one of their friends? am i not interesting enough for them to take notice? i always feel left out when people would talk and i’m not included in their conversations.

even in texting. i’d notice some of my friends from college who are still my classmates in my masters class texting. but when i text them, they would not reply to my texts. and i get to ask myself.

am i not their friends?
am i not interesting enough?
aren’t they interested in me?

this continues to a night of selfpity and the feeling of being unimportant