A Letter to My Younger Self

01:17

April 19, 2015

This idea was borrowed from https://wordsaliveonyourscreen.wordpress.com/2015/04/15/advice-to-my-younger-self/

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Dear me,

now that you will enter the university, you will be faced with many choices and paths to take.  Unfortunately, the choices you make now will mold you to who you will be in the future.  Don’t fret too much, because you are young, life will allow you to commit mistakes and will forgive you for them.  I have several points that I want to share with you.

Choose your friends wisely. As the famous saying goes, “No man is an island”. This means that a person’s connections and relationships with others are vital and forms the environment that you will live in. I’m not telling you to choose one group over another.  I’m telling you that who you associate with is important.  Try to be close with people that you think are “intelligent” and worthwhile.  Being friends who support you in anything that you do is not so difficult to find, but having friends who are smart enough to advice you not to do foolish things is a bit more difficult.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Romantic Relationships form who you are. This may sound strange now but this is important. Choose to be in relationships that you feel you will get what you want.  I’m not simply talking about sex, we will get to that later on, but what I’m saying is that even when you are in a relationship, you must still think about yourself.  Will you grow as a person is you are with this girl or will you just be trapped in an unhealthy relationship that you will have a hard time leaving because of mind games, habit, attachment, and what have you.  Try to be with a person who is interesting and who will motivate you to be a better person. But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Money is important. This may sound clicheish but money is important.  Money doesn’t grow on trees and your constant and seemingly-endless supply of money from your parents will end once you finish your schooling.  So try to save money and try to avoid wasting money on useless and superfluous things.  This point is pretty straight forward and simple.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Time is gold. Studying takes time but I won’t take all your time. You are smart and you can easily ace your classes without too much trouble. Use your spare time wisely. Get hobbies that are productive and will help you to be a better.  Invest your time with good friends, and maybe even join worthwhile groups.  Read books and watch movies.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Sex. I know that you are just starting in the university and you might not be thinking about it. Trust it, it will happen and it will change you. As a man, you are almost always good to go and your body and mind will let you know continuously. Now, you may choose to have sex with someone you are in a relationship with. You may choose, and be so lucky if this is what you want, to have sex with people who just want to have sex (you’ll be surprised by the amount of people who want this). You may even “demonize” people into having sex with you and without really having a relationship with them.   But please be as careful as you can because sex is an important experience and this should be treated with utmost respect.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

As always, this is all the information shared here is shared with trust.

Last Love Letter

14:12
August 7, 2011

Dear ______,

it has been a whild since I last wrote to anyone worth writing to, and I guess I’m trying to express the things that i was not able to say last Aug 4. I’m sure you have your doubts about my feelings and about my intentions and now I’m writting to you to clear up all of those. As I have said, my feelings for you and how I feel about you are sure. I don’t even have to think about it, I didn’t even second guess myself. It was very hard to put into words what I’m feeling and I guess the simplest way to say it is that I really do love you. From the bottom of my heart and with all my being. As cheeesy as it sounds, as cliche as every love story, this is how I feel. You deserve all the happiness in the world and if I may be the lucky guy to give it to you, I’d give it to you in a hearbeat. In the off chance that I may be the person who will be able to make you the happiest crazy person in the world, I’d love to be that guy to make you happy. I know that revealing my feelings for you is a big risk, of loosing communications with you, loosing our friendship for thirteen years, and ultimately loosing you… But in my heart, I know it’s worth the risk. Because I know that even if there is only a small chance for requited love, the rewards will be unimaginable. It’s really worth the risk _____ and I’m now risking all. I’m risking all because I love you. It is really hard not to fall in love with you. You’re a very strong person, a very honest person, you are very kind, very humble and you’re a real person. You’re a driven person. And you’re not driven by your libido, pride, nor greed. You’re driven by your heart. And that alone makes you a person of great worth and value. I know that you probably don’t believe anything I’ve said, but I believe that you trust and know me enough to know that what I say is true.

I knoow, and you’ve expressed enough, that you are scarred. That you are lost. Lost in the world of medicine that you so selflessly entered not for yourself, but for others. I understand that completely. I know that you have sacrificed time, sleep, personal life, social life, family life, love life, food and desires for others and now you have so little to offer others, and even to yourself if you choose to. I am not expecting nor demanding anythings. I told you that me being able to say that I love you now is enough for me. I’m not that of a martir that I don’t hope that you love me too. I hope, but not expect. You may be lost, tired, confused in your life but I hope that you’ll allow me to love you. Allow me to love you despite how you feel about your life and yourself. Allow me to feel as happy as I feel because I love you. And allow yourself to feel my love for you.

Oh how i wish that I’ll be the man to make you feel that you’re the happiest person in the world. How i wish that I am everything and more that you look for in a man. How I wish that I’ll be the man who you’ll turn to when you’re tired. How I wish I could be given the chance to take away all your pains and doubts. I wish that I’ll be the one to bring life back to your heart. I wish I am the one who will make you happy for the rest of your life.

But before anything else, I would like to thank you ______. Thank you for the past thirteen years of hardcore friendship. Through thick and thin, we kept our friendship alive. Since we were young, we grew up together (well, sort of) we shared stories, secrets, tears, laughter, joys and pain. And I always feel lucky to be your friend. You were and always have been honest, as in completely honest with me. And your honesty and openness has always been appreciated. When I think about it, I feel that I am one of the privilaged few that you really openn yourself up to. I really appreciate your honesty with me. Even at the brink of cheos, when I revealed my feelings for you, you were open and honest enough to say that you are lost and not ready to give an answer. I wasn’t able to express my appreciation for you honesty and calmness despite your reaction then. You weren’t hasty to make a decision right then and there that might have cause more harm than good. And for that ______, I thank you.

Hmm… But what if it was never ment to be, so to speak… Thatt would be OK. I’m not the type of person who would force myself on someone. If that would be the case, just please be honest with me. Tell me the truth and be blunt. Don’t worry, I won’t get hurt becasue hurting should be only felt if a person intendt to hurt another. And I know that that is the last thing on your mind… To hurt me. And if this would be the case _____, if things will not work out between us, I ask only one thing from you… If you don’t and can’t love me, that’s fine, but please allow me to love you still.
But what if ______, just what if you do love me too? How would/could that work out between us? Me being a teacher which practically means a different lifestyle compared to an 8 to 5 job, plus a masters student which means goodbye to my nights and weekends too. And you pursuiting your dreams to become a doctor, no need for further explanation. How could this work if ever? Well, in my mind, nothing really change. You’d still be the girl who doesn’t text or call much and have less timt for yourself. You’d go out with your friends, party then sleepless than you should. And I’ld still be here, patiently waiting for you. =) Texting you at times and stopping myself from texting so you won’t feel that I’m too clingy. I’d still battle with myself whenever I see you online in facebook whether I should message you or let you rest because I know that that is one of your few chances to rest. The only thing that would change, for the time being that is and if I’ld be so lucky, is that I’d know you love me, and that you’d know that I love you more…

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