Do men with attractive wives/girlfriends cheat on them?

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I recently attended a wedding and this question came to mind.
“Do men with attractive wives/girlfriends cheat on them?”

I’m not talking about “5s to 7s” as some people may put it. I’m talking about really beautiful, attractive, sexy, and blood boiling women. Well… Do they?

I’m not really sure what I expect from posting this but I guess I want to share some thoughts, experiences and ideas. Have some, please do share. I promise I won’t tell anyone.

Now that I’m writing this, I’m thinking to myself, “What is cheating?”. Is it having sex with someone who is not your wife/girlfriend? Is it simply flirting? When you find them more attractive than your current wife/girlfriend, is it cheating already? Okay, more than finding them attractive, if you feel that having sex with another person might be more enjoyable for you compared to having sex with your current wife/girlfriend, is it cheating?

A Letter to My Younger Self

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April 19, 2015

This idea was borrowed from https://wordsaliveonyourscreen.wordpress.com/2015/04/15/advice-to-my-younger-self/

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Dear me,

now that you will enter the university, you will be faced with many choices and paths to take.  Unfortunately, the choices you make now will mold you to who you will be in the future.  Don’t fret too much, because you are young, life will allow you to commit mistakes and will forgive you for them.  I have several points that I want to share with you.

Choose your friends wisely. As the famous saying goes, “No man is an island”. This means that a person’s connections and relationships with others are vital and forms the environment that you will live in. I’m not telling you to choose one group over another.  I’m telling you that who you associate with is important.  Try to be close with people that you think are “intelligent” and worthwhile.  Being friends who support you in anything that you do is not so difficult to find, but having friends who are smart enough to advice you not to do foolish things is a bit more difficult.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Romantic Relationships form who you are. This may sound strange now but this is important. Choose to be in relationships that you feel you will get what you want.  I’m not simply talking about sex, we will get to that later on, but what I’m saying is that even when you are in a relationship, you must still think about yourself.  Will you grow as a person is you are with this girl or will you just be trapped in an unhealthy relationship that you will have a hard time leaving because of mind games, habit, attachment, and what have you.  Try to be with a person who is interesting and who will motivate you to be a better person. But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Money is important. This may sound clicheish but money is important.  Money doesn’t grow on trees and your constant and seemingly-endless supply of money from your parents will end once you finish your schooling.  So try to save money and try to avoid wasting money on useless and superfluous things.  This point is pretty straight forward and simple.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Time is gold. Studying takes time but I won’t take all your time. You are smart and you can easily ace your classes without too much trouble. Use your spare time wisely. Get hobbies that are productive and will help you to be a better.  Invest your time with good friends, and maybe even join worthwhile groups.  Read books and watch movies.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Sex. I know that you are just starting in the university and you might not be thinking about it. Trust it, it will happen and it will change you. As a man, you are almost always good to go and your body and mind will let you know continuously. Now, you may choose to have sex with someone you are in a relationship with. You may choose, and be so lucky if this is what you want, to have sex with people who just want to have sex (you’ll be surprised by the amount of people who want this). You may even “demonize” people into having sex with you and without really having a relationship with them.   But please be as careful as you can because sex is an important experience and this should be treated with utmost respect.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

As always, this is all the information shared here is shared with trust.

Urge of the human person

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january 13, 2013

“urges”

love, attraction, lust, attachment
such emotions rule the hearts of people
and yet we venture through life so unprepared
so engulfed by these feelings
which haunt us every step of the way

like in any restaurant, we pay in the end
we may or may not be able to handle the bill
but in the end, we all have to pay

the price may be to high for some
some may not believe the cost
some may be outraged by the amount
some may try to bargain the fee
some may just sulk
but in the end, we all have to pay
a broken friendship, a broken ego
a broken heart or a broken hymen

and yet, some are able to afford
astounded, some are willing to afford

why would some be willing to spend so much?
to give something so valueable?

because value is in the eye of the beholder