Do men with attractive wives/girlfriends cheat on them?

I recently attended a wedding and this question came to mind.
“Do men with attractive wives/girlfriends cheat on them?”

I’m not talking about “5s to 7s” as some people may put it. I’m talking about really beautiful, attractive, sexy, and blood boiling women. Well… Do they?

I’m not really sure what I expect from posting this but I guess I want to share some thoughts, experiences and ideas. Have some, please do share. I promise I won’t tell anyone.

Now that I’m writing this, I’m thinking to myself, “What is cheating?”. Is it having sex with someone who is not your wife/girlfriend? Is it simply flirting? When you find them more attractive than your current wife/girlfriend, is it cheating already? Okay, more than finding them attractive, if you feel that having sex with another person might be more enjoyable for you compared to having sex with your current wife/girlfriend, is it cheating?

A Letter to My Younger Self

01:17

April 19, 2015

This idea was borrowed from https://wordsaliveonyourscreen.wordpress.com/2015/04/15/advice-to-my-younger-self/

Dear me,

now that you will enter the university, you will be faced with many choices and paths to take.  Unfortunately, the choices you make now will mold you to who you will be in the future.  Don’t fret too much, because you are young, life will allow you to commit mistakes and will forgive you for them.  I have several points that I want to share with you.

Choose your friends wisely. As the famous saying goes, “No man is an island”. This means that a person’s connections and relationships with others are vital and forms the environment that you will live in. I’m not telling you to choose one group over another.  I’m telling you that who you associate with is important.  Try to be close with people that you think are “intelligent” and worthwhile.  Being friends who support you in anything that you do is not so difficult to find, but having friends who are smart enough to advice you not to do foolish things is a bit more difficult.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Romantic Relationships form who you are. This may sound strange now but this is important. Choose to be in relationships that you feel you will get what you want.  I’m not simply talking about sex, we will get to that later on, but what I’m saying is that even when you are in a relationship, you must still think about yourself.  Will you grow as a person is you are with this girl or will you just be trapped in an unhealthy relationship that you will have a hard time leaving because of mind games, habit, attachment, and what have you.  Try to be with a person who is interesting and who will motivate you to be a better person. But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Money is important. This may sound clicheish but money is important.  Money doesn’t grow on trees and your constant and seemingly-endless supply of money from your parents will end once you finish your schooling.  So try to save money and try to avoid wasting money on useless and superfluous things.  This point is pretty straight forward and simple.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Time is gold. Studying takes time but I won’t take all your time. You are smart and you can easily ace your classes without too much trouble. Use your spare time wisely. Get hobbies that are productive and will help you to be a better.  Invest your time with good friends, and maybe even join worthwhile groups.  Read books and watch movies.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

Sex. I know that you are just starting in the university and you might not be thinking about it. Trust it, it will happen and it will change you. As a man, you are almost always good to go and your body and mind will let you know continuously. Now, you may choose to have sex with someone you are in a relationship with. You may choose, and be so lucky if this is what you want, to have sex with people who just want to have sex (you’ll be surprised by the amount of people who want this). You may even “demonize” people into having sex with you and without really having a relationship with them.   But please be as careful as you can because sex is an important experience and this should be treated with utmost respect.  But in the end, the choice is yours to make.

As always, this is all the information shared here is shared with trust.

My Day

April 2, 2015
23:54

It has been a while since I have written anything here in my anonymous blog/journal/diary/whatever.
I’m writing in it now because my mind is running 1,000 kph and I’m getting nowhere fast.

A day has passed without me ever noticing it.
Today is a religious holiday and I just sat at home facing my computer, doing nothing.
My mind is running 2,000 kph and I’m getting nowhere fast.

Sleep eludes me once again, making me hate the nap I took this afternoon.
Aimlessly, I searched the internet for technology that I cannot afford.
I hate this feeling.

I woke up this morning feeling less than refreshed and as motivated as someone on death row.
My responsibilities are piling up and I’m less motivated as ever before.
I hate this feeling.

I’m writing to feel less stressed.
I’m writing to release my thoughts.
I’m writing to be anonymous.
I’m writing so that I will feel sleepy.

I know a lot of people here feel the same way.
Writing anonymously
hoping that someone will post a comment
hoping that contacting someone they don’t know will help them feel better.
But in the end, everyone is left to fend for themselves.

What is a friend?

What is a friend?

Friends come from different places. Acquaintances, friends, best friends, lovers, and ex-lovers are just some of the ways we try to categorize the people we have a relationship with. Some common groups of friends we have are our elementary school friends, high school friends, friends from the university, workplace friends, people we met in organizations, and our neighbors. But my question is what really defines a friend.

Is it someone you constantly talk with or someone you constantly talk to? Or is it even someone who we don’t often communicate with? Are they the people we are comfortable to do anything with? Or are they the people we try to show our best side to? Do we constantly do things to please them? Are our friends someone who supports us in whatever we do? Or are friends someone who tells us that we we are doing is wrong? Do our friends need to be in the same group? Or are true friends the people we don’t think of as just part of our group? Are friends someone who would cover our asses? Or someone who rats us out to the people we love the most?

I actually don’t know the right answers but I’ll share a story about someone who I consider one of my dearest friends.

(names will be changed for anonymity)
Her name is Machi. She was my university classmate. We were actually not in the same group of friends but she was the girlfriend of a close friend of mine. What really gave us a chance to be close was when they broke up and she needed someone to talk to. Then we became close and even teased each other as “best friends” because we didn’t like such labels or terms of familiarity.

I had a girlfriend at that time, lets call her “Yuki”, who was also my classmate. Yuki and Machi were not really close friends but they respected each other. Long story short, I cheated on Yuki. I met with my ex-girlfriend and had one night of… well you know. My ex-girlfriend, Jamie, was single at that time but she knew about Yuki. Naturally, we agreed to keep it a secret. A few days later, when I went to the library to see Yuki in the spot we usually see each other, I saw her crying with a common friend. I tried to talk to Yuki and asked her what was wrong. She didn’t say anything and just continued to cry. Her friend begged me to leave so I did. My heart raced and I became angry. So I called my ex, Jamie, and asked her if she told anybody. She said that she never told anyone and me being a total moron, believed her. Maybe someone saw us? Maybe I sent an incriminating message to someone by accident? Maybe Yuki read the messages on my phone? Maybe someone read the messages on Jamie’s phone? All the possibilities raced through my mind.

After a few days/weeks of silence with Yuki, she confronted me. She sent me a message that she wanted to talk. So I met her. Without hesitation, she told me that she knows about Jamie and I. She asked me if it is true. I lied to her. The worst lie I told in my life. She started to cry and said that someone she trusts told her. She just wanted me to admit it so she can move on with her life. I nodded my head. She started to cry more but now because of anger. I remember how sad and angry she looked. And with one strong swing, she punched my right in my jaw and left. I deserved it.

Most of my friends in class stopped talking to me. I remained silent. Nobody even tried to talk to me nor do I blame them for doing so. Yuki was well loved by our class and now I hurt her. Their love for Yuki soon turned to hatred for me. One day, Machi sent me a message inviting me for drink. She told me that she had something important to tell me. Unaware of the weight she has been carrying, I met her. We started drinking and after she got enough liquid courage, she told me something that I never would have expected. She was the one who told Yuki about Jamie and me. Jamie’s male bestfriend knew about it and because he was courting Machi, he told Machi. And since Machi knew that it was the best thing for everyone, she directly told Yuki.

I was so shocked. But the first thing I did was to hug Machi. I thanked her for doing something I was too afraid of doing. Nobody will ever believe me but after I saw Jamie again, I hated myself for doing so and I wanted to tell Yuki. Machi was my friend for telling Yuki. Machi wanted me to be a man and face reality. I appreciate her for that. I love her for that.

This was around 6 years ago. I asked Yuki for forgiveness and she gave me another chance and we lasted for 4 years. I don’t get to talk with Machi often because she moved to a different country but we would sometimes talk. I dedicate this post to me friend. Machi. Thank you.

 

My Bestfriend

Flames of Passion

Feb 18, 2013
23:34

Love… Nothing new to see here.
But i just want to remind myself about love.
That love, sometimes can be a mirage.
It tricks us into thinking that we are in love with someone
but in fact we are utterly oblivious to the truth.

Former flames or flames that seek to reconnect.
they are prone to the fallacy
of loving the person who they knew before
and not the person in the present.
Such a fallacy is committed usually when people
can’t let go of the past or can’t accept that people change.

Burning flames, young and old, are open to the dangers
of committing the fallacy of loving one’s idea of the person
and not who the person really is.
Lovers of the brightest flame always want to be the best.
They try to project an image of themselves to their partners
so that the flame burns on.
But the brightness of the flame might be blinding you
and the image if your lover might be far from the truth.

Dying flames, these are still open to danger.
They are in danger of committing the tragic fallacy of
loving our hopes for our diminishing relationship.
During dire times we try our best to stay positive
and dying flames may fool us into loving the hope
that our partners will change for the relationship.

And the extinguished flame of a spent match…
Simple…
The fallacy of confusing hope from hopeless.

50 Shades (Personal Quiz Time)

Snagged this questionnaire from kimboxin

Play along if you dare!

1. Your very first car?  I never really owned my own car. I still drive my parent’s car.

2. Your first friend?  He was my neighbor. We used to ride our bikes and watch tv together. He is now a doctor.

3. Item you have that you have had longer than anything else? I guess the oldest item that I still have is a wallet strap with skulls. I stole it from a shop when I was in highshcool

4. What you order the most at Starbucks? Peppermint mocha

5. Body parts that are double jointed?  I don’t know

6. Name a shortcut that you take in your daily routine? Sometimes, I don’t complete my weekday workouts.

7. Lets say you become the opposite sex for one day. What would you do? If i’ll be a beautiful and sexy woman, i’ll try to flirt with guys and see how much they would give or do for me.

8. Craziest place you had sex? Two. On the office pantry (it was late at night). Or in a secluded place on campus. (we had insect bites after)

9. What was/ is your favorite subject in highschool? Nothing in particular

10. Your very first pet?  The first that I could remember was an orange stray cat.

11. The first toy you have memory of? I still remember my first stuffed toy bear called “Bear”.

12. What do you spend most of your day doing? Work. As every drone does. But aside from that, thinking of proofs that I am not insane.

13. What channel on TV do you watch the most?   I don’t really watch tv. I just watch the news.

14. What friend do you miss the most? Most of my closest friends now live in other countries like the US, the middle east, and other more developed countries.

15. What is your favorite holiday? New Year, definitely new year.

16. What would be your ideal day? If not simply playing video games non-stop, it would have to be just chilling by the beach with friends.

17. Tennis shoes or sandals? Nether.

18. Favorite alcoholic beverage and why? Local beer I guess. I really like the taste of San Miguel Pale Pilsen. Or maybe Jack Daniels. I haven’t really tasted a whole lot of alcoholic beverages.

19. Slow dance or fast dance? I seldom dance. And when I do,people laugh. I don’t blame them.

20. what was/ is your best age so far? What makes the best the best? Maybe when I die, that would be the best? I’m not suicidal or anything, maybe it will just be the end of my life, no matter how great or uneventful it might or may have been.

21. Who is a celebrity you hate? Hate is an emotion that I don’t think I have ever felt before.

22. Name your favorite crime show?  Crime show?

23. Who do you wish would show up at your door today?  My friends who now lives in other countries.

24. What do you put in your taco? I don’t have a taco.

25. What is your best trait?  What might be best for my might be the worst for other people. I guess I’m an honest person.

26. What is your opinion of Peewee Herman?  I never got into his comedy. Meaning the character, not the actor

27. 50 Shades of Grey anyone?  Never read

28. What is your guilty pleasure? I enjoyed watching sex and the city. I like how they presented relationships.

29. How many times have you been in love. Explain? Define love. I was in about 6 relationships in the past. Some were romantic relationships. Some were just carnal relationships. Go figure

30. If you could choose between 20 new pairs of sweatpants or 2 new pairs of dress pants which would you choose? I never wear sweatpants so I want my dress pants now!

31. How much do you know about your neighbors? They own a college and the widower likes loud motorcycles

32. How much do your neighbors know about you? I’ll wait for them to answer this question.

33. How do you organize your underwear drawer?  Who said I do?

34. Earliest childhood memory? Playing in mud

35. Where is the best place you have lived so far? In the philippines, people seldom live away from their parents except when they marry. And I’m not married, so Philippines is still the place to be.

36. What kind of car do you drive and where do you drive it? My parent’s cars.

37. If you won the lottery who would you share it with and why? No. I won’t tell anyone significant and I’ll just invest it and live off the profits.

38. What is your karaoke song? Beatles and Carpenters

39. How old do you feel?  As old as fuck

40. Massage, shopping trip or fishing trip?  I’d love a fishing trip. I’m a lazy outdoors kind of guy

41. What is your go to comedy show?  Everybody loves raymond or the Simpsons

42. What do you hum/ sing around the house?  I heard it through the grapevine

43. Spend 2 hours at Walmart or 30 minutes online shopping? I don’t shop

46. Spring or Autumn?   Philippines

47. Tell about a bad dream. I remember seeing a green gate and when I turned around, I saw something revolving and I had to catch it everytime it goes near the gate. As it revolves, it increases in size and soon, it becomes a giant ball of mass that I am not able to catch anymore. I guess what made me scared was the idea that I will not be able to catch it anymore.

48. Book you read as a child?  Science books

49. Most embarrassing moment? I was looking at a CD in the store and when I rested my hands to my sides, my hand accidentally slapped a sales lady’s butt who was coincidentally bending over. I couldn’t say anything but sorry and I quickly left the store.

50. What position do you sleep in? On my side, with a pillow between my knees and an eyemask.

 

all the information shared here is considered shared in trust

Urge of the human person

23:31
january 13, 2013

“urges”

love, attraction, lust, attachment
such emotions rule the hearts of people
and yet we venture through life so unprepared
so engulfed by these feelings
which haunt us every step of the way

like in any restaurant, we pay in the end
we may or may not be able to handle the bill
but in the end, we all have to pay

the price may be to high for some
some may not believe the cost
some may be outraged by the amount
some may try to bargain the fee
some may just sulk
but in the end, we all have to pay
a broken friendship, a broken ego
a broken heart or a broken hymen

and yet, some are able to afford
astounded, some are willing to afford

why would some be willing to spend so much?
to give something so valueable?

because value is in the eye of the beholder

2013th revolution of the earth

january 1, 2013
00:25

for the past couple of years, i’ve celebrated my new
years in a different way.
new years, have always been a time for me to reflect.
reflect about the good things i have been fortunate enough to receive
but for this year, it is different

the day started like every day of my christmas break this year
me waking up unusually late, me groggy and weary
i felt every little change that has occured over the past 365 days
every little and every large adjustment i had to force myself to accept
all the friends that i love who drifted away
all the comforts of live that gone
all my goals that i was not able to accomplish
all the sadness that i feltall the personal struggles that i bear everyday
every last one of them i picked up again as i woke up
then i started my day like every day of my christmas break this year
all of them i planned to avoid

i wasn’t planning on writting anything this year
i guess i was at the point where i just wanted to concede
concede to the idea that things doesn’t seem to change
well i was so down that i didn’t feel like doing anything to help myself

5 minutes before midnight, my mother urged us to go out of the house
and light the little cache of fireworks my father kept from last year.
we were not even complete, limit was working new years eve
so the 4 of us lighted petty sparklers and shit like that
then i noticed how fireworks lighted the sky
it was so bright and so colorful
my mother and father was being their usual sweet selves
lighting fireworks together and enjoying the disply
as i saw my father enjoying the view
a distinct song played in my head.
rurouni kensihn – omoi (strings version)
then everything changed…

i felt a certain feeling that i have never felt for a long time
it was joy
seeing my family enjoy the simple fireworks that we had
enjoying the company of each other
i dont know… it is hard for me to explain
but when i saw my father as he held his little firework,
and see the amazing display at his back
i was overwhelmed…
even if i dwell on all the sad things that i feel right now
i’m still lucky. i’m lucky to have my family
i’m lucky that i am able to take time and appreciate life with them

thank you 2012th time the earth revolved around the sun
thank you philippines

Welcome back night

December 29, 2012
02:21

Welcome back night, it has been a while since we’ve stared at each others face.
Why is it when you most need your sleep, “insomnia” kicks in?
“insomnia”? Yeah right. The mindfucking thoughts that you have been running away from just caught up with you.
All the things you fear.
All the things that hurt you but you we’re too proud to admit.
All the things that haunt you.

Dreadful things.
Loneliness.
Being lonely and alone.
Rejection by your so called friends
Being left by your friends
Selfpitty.

Oh the thoughts of a young, “intellectual”, “artistic”, “writer” written and published for all the other “intellectual” etc. To see.

10 more things about me

october 29, 2012
15:22

this is the second wave of questions i got from miss panalyah… i hope answering 
these questions will help people understant/know me a little bit more.

1. What kind of art are you into?
art? art? what is art? haha when ever i answer things like this, i unconsiously 
analyze the questions. i look like i’m arguing with the questions. but i think i 
just want to be able to answer the questions properly and for me to do that, i need 
to understand the question asked first. hmm… going back to MY question, what is 
art? i believe that everything has an artistic (if i may use the term) side to it. 
the aesthetic work of this perfume bottle, the cool image this pair of sunglasses 
portray, even the artwork of the wrapper of this snack i’m eating now. everything 
is art, well in my opinion.

but to be a little bit more mainstream, i love music. the carpenters, the beatles, 
kanye west, bonethugs n harmony, cream, pantera, metallica, rush, black sabbath, 
yes, dream theater, arctic monkeys and a whole lot more. i’m not the type of person 
who just says that he loves music but all the music he listens to is pop music. i’m 
not saying that pop music is not good music or anything like that. i’m just saying 
that popular music is popular music. what about it do you actually love except for 
it being catchy?

i also enjoy going to museums and experiencing different artworks there. i’m not an 
art buff or anything like that. i dont know the difference between a van gogh and a 
picaso and other people famous artists. but, i still enjoy going to museums. i 
enjoy the quiet athmosphere. i enjoy seeing different kinds of art. paintings, 
digital art works, sculptures, post modern things. almost all kinds of art that i 
usually see in museums. i’m just not particularly a fan of pottery, portraits, 
dance. there are some more kinds of art that i dont particularly like, but i dont 
know what they are called.

2. Would you say you are in love with yourself?
in love with myself? maybe before… but not now… i’m unhappy with my life now. 
it is pathetic. i have a job, loving parents, fun brothers, i’m taking up my 
masters class, financially ok, relatively good health. almost everything everybody 
wants, but i’m still unhappy. disgusting me

3. If you could change anything about yourself, what would it be?
myself? is this physical? mental, emotional? financial? or something about my life? 
anything about myself? maybe i need to be more positive. to have mental peace.

4. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?
live anywhere in the world? some of the places i like to go to before i die is 
itally, japan and america. and what they have in common is that their food looks so 
great. :D i’d love to live in those places for a while so i may indulge. :D but if 
i really have to live in a place? i still live here in the philippines. most of my 
friends are here. most of my family are here. what else can you ask for? money? 
yeah, i want that too…

5. List 5 of your favorite movies, and why you love them.
oh man. i love movies so much and i dont think i can list just 5 movies. hmm… 
maybe what i can do is list 5 actors that i love?

 

one of my favorite actors may be al pacino. i love his passion and his intensity in 
movies. of course i’m going to mention “god father”. i love his facial expressions. 
i love how you can see his intensity on his face. i love his serious roles. i’m not 
a fan of some of his attempts in comedy. haha

next may be is kevin spacey. i love his roles and how he portrays them. he has this 
certain look that makes me think. he has a deep look that strikes me. the look that 
you know nothing and he has all the cards in his hands. the movie “Se7en” got me 
hooked on kevin spacey. also the movie “Usual Suspects”. watch those two movies if 
you like thrillers.

i also like tom hanks for some reason. hahaha i think it is the hopeless romantic 
in me. i love his movies with meg ryan. “sleepless in seatle” and “you’ve got mail” 
are the movies that i loved tom hanks. i like the “normal” guy meeting a normal 
girl and crap like that.

 

(btw, i got the pictuer on deviant art)

my guilty pleasure actor is nicolas cage. i dont know why but i like this guy’s 
movies. during the 1990s and some early 2000s. haha i dont like some of his 
relatively new works like “national treasure” and things like that. one of my 
favorite movies of him are “8mm” and “bringing out the dead”. “8mm” is one of the 
first movies that i loved when i was a young boy. i remember that i watched it on a 
local channel and i remembered the title of the movie because i really liked it. i 
downloaded it when i was in college and it is still one of my favorite movies of 
all time.

last but not the least is alfred hitchcock. haha yeah yeah he is not an actor. i 
love his style and his “macguffins”. (look it up in wikipedia or better yet, watch 
some of his movies) “lifeboat”, “strangers on a train”, “dial m for murder” and my 
personal guilty pleasure, “dr.strangelove”

6. If you could have a superpower, what would it be?
i’ve always fantasized about this when i was a child. up to now, i’m consistent in 
my answer. i’ve always wanted to control time. i wanted to stop time and go back in 
time. i could just imagine the power. bwahahahah evil laugh. hmm… i always 
imagined that i will rob banks and cheat on exams so that life will be easy for me. 
i’ve never really looked into what might happen to me if i have this “power”. but 
hey fuck it, if i have that much power, i’ll just cheat through life. ofcourse some 
things must be done properly. like enjoy time with friends, skateboarding and 
things like that. i also want to stop time so that i’ll finally have enough time 
for the things i like. reading and sleeping. haha

7. What would your ideal holiday be like?
hmm… that is a tough one. maybe the question is about a vacation? i mean, a trip? 
i love beaches (with an “ea”) and i love the tranquility i feel when i’m there. so 
maybe my ideal holiday is sitting on a beach chair, smoking a cigarette, drinking 
red wine (i’m not particular) and having a lovely discussion with someone. ofcourse 
the ideal is to be with someone i love. but saddly, that person does not exist 
anymore. my former flame, the person who i was with for 4 years now has a partner. 
not that i disapprove or anything like that. i’m really happy for her because i 
know that she is really happy now. my first love also has change so much that i 
dont know her anymore and we are not talking. so i dont know who i’d love to be 
with but i guess that part is a mistery now…

8. Do you believe in any faith/religion?
no. faith is the belif in something without proof. i’m not the type of person who 
believes in something without proof. i believe that religion was created and is 
maintained to keep people in check. i believe that religion was created to teach or 
to guide people between right and wrong. i believe that religion was created to be 
able to give hope to the hopeless. i am a person who knows how to show respect. and 
i show respect where respect is due.

9. What was your favourite subject in school?
when i was in gradeschool and highschool, my favorite subject was dismissal. haha 
but when i was in college, i enjoyed my psychology courses for two things. one is 
that i really enjoy learning about the theories about how people think. i enjoy 
reflecting about the things i see and the things i’ve learned. the second reason is 
that since it is a lecture class, i am forced to sit down on my chair for 3 hours 
on end. it gave me time to write. i would write essays and poems at the back of my 
notebooks. i’ve filled many notebooks with a lot of these literary crap and i thank 
my classes for that. hahaha

10. Last but not least, tell me in your own words, what kind of person are you?
this might be the most difficult question here. i cant really say what kind of a 
person i am. based on the things people say about me, they say that i’m an rational 
person. they say that i’m a serious person. they also say that i’m a crazy person. 
i guess i agree with them. but i also like to see myself as a fun loving person who 
loves to reflect (sometimes too much), a person who enjoys meeting and talking with 
new people. i’m a person who wants to get as muuch as i can out of this life.